Meet Your Inner Team: Why All Parts of You Are Welcome

(The curious one, the scared one, the safety-seeking one… and more)

Congratulations, you might not know it yet, but you were hiring over the past few years!

You’re not just one thing, one person, one character (you’re trying to figure out).

You’re a whole inner team—a collection of parts, each with their own voice, needs, and role in your life. And often, these parts are what make decisions, start spirals, or hold you back from growth… but they’re also the ones guiding you to exactly what needs healing.

This might be the moment where you realise – oooh I got this concept of my character wrong, I always wondered why in some, very specific situations I get so bitchy. Or why I’m experiencing the same story over and over again, or why I love being by myself but would consider deep down myself to be an introvert.

The breaking news: all of this is true! Because you have different parts within you, which sometimes speak up louder, sometimes more in silence, but all of them have their needs and make sure they are met. And in case you ignore them, that’s when they become bitchy!

When we ignore them or push them away (“Why am I still scared?” or “Ugh, I thought I’d be more confident by now”), we create internal conflict. But when we start listening? Real clarity comes in and you’ll be able to reach for the sky (I know this is a drastic statement to make but watch me go or are you coming with?)

The key is to understand how to treat your inner parts, when to ask who for advice and how to integrate their needs. Often, they just want to be heard and don’t even care if you do 100% what they’d recommend.

Here are 8 inner parts you might recognise—and why learning to work with them (instead of against them) is the key to conscious growth:

1. The Curious One

This part loves to explore. It wants to try new things, ask questions, get excited by possibility.

Why it matters: Curiosity keeps you open. It’s the part that says, “What if this could work out?” even when others are scared.

Ask this part for advice when: You feel stuck or bored. It’ll help you zoom out, see options, or play again.

2. The Scared One

This part shows up when there’s risk, vulnerability, or change. It might feel small, overwhelmed, or just want to hide.

Why it matters: Fear is often a sign you’re stepping outside your comfort zone. This part is trying to keep you safe, not sabotage you.

Ask this part: “What are you afraid will happen? What is the worst scenario that can happen?” Give it a seat at the table—just don’t let it drive the whole journey.

3. The Inner Critic

Yep, this one gets loud. It says you’re not ready. That you should have it all together by now. That you’re not doing enough.

Why it matters: Surprisingly, it’s trying to protect you. Most inner critics developed in childhood to help us fit in or stay safe. These often come in to hide other limiting believes we have (eg. “I’m not good enough” - so I work more than anyone else)

Work with this part by: Naming it. Getting curious. Even thanking it: “Thanks for trying to help me stay on track. I’ve got it from here.”

4. The Safety-Seeking One

This part craves control, routine, and certainty. It doesn’t like big risks or last-minute changes.

Why it matters: Stability helps you feel grounded. This part might resist change, but it also helps you make sustainable decisions. Our brain hasn’t caught up with the pace of modern life. It’s still wired for survival—like there’s a sabre-toothed tiger waiting outside the cave. Even today, it reacts to stress as if your life is in danger. Its only job? To keep you safe.

Ask it: “What would help you feel safe in this decision?” Let it inform your next steps—not hold them hostage.

5. The Dreamer

This one sees big visions and exciting futures. They believe in possibility, in soul-aligned work, in making magic.

Why it matters: Your dreamer gives you direction. It holds the map, even when you forget where you’re going.

Ask this part: “What does our future feel like?” Reconnect with it when you’ve been in survival mode for too long.

6. The Inner Child

Still playful, emotional, tender. This part may carry unhealed wounds or just want more joy and connection.

Why it matters: Your inner child is often the root of your deepest needs—and deepest patterns.

Talk to this part when: You’re triggered. Sad. Or craving something but can’t name it.

7. The High Achiever

Goal-oriented, organised, driven. This part loves planning, executing, and ticking things off.

Why it matters: It gets things done. But it can also burn you out or disconnect you from your needs.

Work with this part by: Balancing its energy with rest and play. Let it support you—not run the show 24/7.

8. The Wise Inner Self

This is the grounded part. The one that knows. It’s quiet, calm, and rarely panics.

Why it matters: This part integrates all others. It leads with clarity, compassion, and long-term vision.

Ask it for advice when: You’re overwhelmed by the noise of your other parts. It’s always there—you just have to tune in.

How to connect with your inner parts

Find a quiet moment. Close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths. Then ask yourself:

“Who’s present with me right now?”

It might be the scared one, the critic, the dreamer. Let them speak. You can journal from their perspective or even ask:

“What do you need right now?”

Just listening already changes the game.

How to use this in everyday life

Next time you’re stuck, triggered, or overwhelmed, pause. Ask yourself:

“Which part of me is speaking up right now?”

Then ask: “What would my wise inner self say?”

This simple shift can help you move from reaction to response and extends the space in between event and reaction (a space that holds magic).

You don’t need to get rid of any part of you. You don’t have to silence the fear or the critic or the chaos.

You just need to learn how to lead yourself.

And leading yourself well means knowing who’s at the table, who’s trying to speak up, and when to ask each of them for input.

You’re not broken for feeling conflicted. You’re complex. Human. Full of layers.

The more you understand your inner world, the more powerful, peaceful, and aligned your outer world becomes.